I read somewhere that friendships often take on one of three forms: those who are in our life for a reason, those who are in our life for a season, and those who travel alongside us for a lifetime. Recently I’ve been thinking of these different types of friendship, and how they relate to my creative writing journey. I decided to share my reflections with you:
Friends for a Reason
I have learned many life lessons from people who have touched my life all too briefly. For me, teachers and mentors fall into this category. In particular, teachers who have commented on my writing have left an indelible impression on me.
There’s one lady, I remember, whose words have echoed in my mind for twenty years. Very artistic in her own right, as well as being my art college lecturer, she offered me more encouragement than all the other lecturers combined. These were her words to me, when I handed her a piece of illustrated prose: “Katie, many people struggle to express themselves in words, but to you, it comes very naturally.”
In the last twenty years, I’ve learnt that, to write well is far from easy. It’s remembering these words of encouragement that keeps me going. Creative writing is challenging, but partaking in it, and sharing stories, is what makes me feel complete.
Friends for a Season
This for me, is very simple to sum up. These are people who are in the trenches alongside me. All too often, work colleagues fall into this category. I know I can turn to the people I work with for mutual support. We will vent our frustrations with each other, or help each other out. Teamwork and a shared sense of humour are what make a workplace bearable. When I’ve changed jobs, these friendships have just fizzled out. We come to realize that the only thing we had in common after all, was that we worked together.
Friends for a Lifetime
Lifetime relationships are few and far between. They are like precious stones: sapphires and diamonds. They are people who I have made a deep connection with. Friendships that last this long aren’t always easy to maintain. The essential elements of lifetime friendships are understanding, compassion, and trust.
My most important lifetime relationship is, of course with my husband. The day I married my husband marked a turning point in my life. It was as if a light had come into my life, illuminating its darkest corners.
I can count, among my family, a precious few who I can say I really share my life with. The same can be said of close friends. There are just a handful of people that I feel I have made a genuinely deep connection with.
To sum up, you never know who will be in your life for a lifetime, but I’ve learnt to invest faith, hope and love in friendships that last. I will treasure the moments of sharing, and seek not to take others for granted. Should a friendship cease, for whatever reason, I will try to keep the following mantra in mind:
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr Seuss